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Mom’s Facebook Post Goes Viral After Confessing She Teaches Her Son Not To Share

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Parents, what will you do if a group of kids suddenly approached your son and asked that he share his toys with them? Most parents will likely say, yes, they’d teach their child to share because it’s a value they want to instill in his young age.

Well one mother handled the situation differently and posted her story on Facebook. The status eventually went viral and garnered thousands of reactions and comments from across the globe.

Alanya Kolberg and young Carson, her son, were at the park when a group of boys suddenly approached them.

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The boys were asking that he share his toys with them but Alanya, breaking parenting stereotypes, said he doesn’t have to share if he doesn’t want to.

Alanya entitled her lengthy Facebook post “MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS” and wrote these words:

“As soon as we walked in the park, Carson was approached by at least 6 boys, all at once demanding that he share his Transformer, Minecraft figure, and truck. He was visibly overwhelmed and clutched them to his chest as the boys reached for them. He looked at me.

“You can tell them no, Carson,” I said. “Just say no. You don’t have to say anything else.”

“Of course, as soon as he said no, the boys ran to tattle to me that he was not sharing. I said, “He doesn’t have to share with you. He said no. If he wants to share, he will.”

Naturally, the other parents reacted negatively.

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Alanya shared:

“That got me some dirty looks from other parents. Here is the thing though:

“If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No!

“Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again.

“So really, while you’re giving me dirty looks, presumably thinking my son and I are rude, whose manners are lacking here? The person reluctant to give his 3 toys away to 6 strangers, or the 6 strangers demanding to be given something that doesn’t belong to them, even when the owner is obviously uncomfortable?”

Alanya concluded:

“The goal is to teach our children how to function as adults. While I do know some adults who clearly never learned how to share as children, I know far more who don’t know how to say no to people, or how to set boundaries, or how to practice self-care. Myself included.

“In any case, Carson only brought the toys to share with my friend’s little girl, who we were meeting at the park. He only didn’t want to share with the greedy boys because he was excited to surprise her with them.

“The next time your snowflake runs to you, upset that another child isn’t sharing, please remember that we don’t live in a world where it’s conducive to give up everything you have to anyone just because they said so, and I’m not going to teach my kid that that’s the way it works.”

Needless to say, netizens have been divided about the thought-provoking subject.

Some supported Alanya’s seemingly unorthodox parenting method.

Others, however, expressed disagreement with what she did.

The story has since gone viral after it was picked up by BoredPanda and other news websites.

How about you, dear readers? Do you agree or disagree with this mother’s insights about sharing? Leave a comment below!

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