We encounter all types of people everyday. With experience, we learn how to deal with them, one way or another. Some people are easy to get along with, others are not. It’s really up to you on how you would approach them.
For many, the most difficult type of person to deal with is a manipulative one. Living with their types is, for the most part, exhausting and complicated, particularly when it comes to a relationship. As partners, they’re often prone to blaming and codependency.
According to the experts, manipulative people use this thing called ‘perspecticide’ in order to get what they want in life.
In an interview with Business Insider, Lisa Aronson Fontes, a psychology researcher from the University of Massachusetts Amherts stated that manipulative people tend to use “perspecticide.” This word means “the incapacity to know what you know,” and was conceived as a means of brainwashing war prisoners back then.
According to the studies, perspecticide is also frequently used in cults.
Regarding her studies, Fontes explained:
In an abusive or controlling relationship, over time the dominating partner changes how the victim thinks. The abuser defines what love is. The abuser defines what is appropriate in terms of monitoring the partner. The abuser defines what is wrong with the victim, and what she needs to do to change it.
As a result, the victims end up becoming prisoners in their lives.
When living with a manipulative partner, victims end up getting controlled in all aspects of money and transportation. Because of fear, the victims’ view of themselves and the world changes drastically.
During her studies, Fontes encountered many people who claimed that they were controlled by their abusive partners. What’s more interesting was that most of them were women. However, it is also important to note that this can still happen to anyone, regardless of the gender. Regarding this issue, Fontes stated:
A person who is being coercively controlled — even without physical violence — does not feel free to live their own life on their own terms.
That’s a pretty valid statement. If you believe that you are currently stuck in an abusive relationship, please do not hesitate to seek professional help. It will be much better in the long run.
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Are you raising a spoiled brat?
Today, manners matter, especially among the youth. If you want to your kid to be kind, generous and good-mannered, it all boils down to one thing - good parenting skills.
You should set a good example to your kids and at the same time, not tolerate what they're doing wrong. This way, you will raise children who are not rude to others. Besides, let's face it: when we encounter rude people, we would often wonder how they were raised.
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It looks straight out of Harry Potter!
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It's definitely not for everyone, as the idea of multicolored locks might not appeal to some people, such as those in the corporate setup. But for the more adventurous ones, trying heat-reactive hair color might sound appealing.
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85-Year-Old Grandma Spends Her Retirement Skydiving And Swimming With Sharks
She’s retired, but not from life.
After working for more than half their lives, many people dream of finally getting to relax when they retire. Golfing and gardening sound good. Sipping umbrella-topped drinks on a beach sounds even better.
In any case, a majority of seniors who sign out of the 9-to-5 grind look forward to many days spent in leisure enjoying themselves and their family. Having worked themselves into the ground for almost all their adulthood, they feel a restful retirement is more than fully deserved.
But not for 85-year-old Trish Wagstaff.
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