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Grieving Daughter To Sprinkle Her Mother’s Ashes On Her Christmas Dinner

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During the yuletide season, we all couldn’t help but remember our departed loved ones. Besides, this is a time for gathering for many families and friends.

Well apparently, one grieving daughter has taken things to an extreme level after deciding that she will scatter her mother’s ashes on the food she’s having for her Christmas dinner.

Meet Debra Parsons. She’s having her mom Doreen for Christmas dinner!

According to the 4-year-old woman, she’s planning to scatter her mother’s last remains on the turkey and Christmas pudding she’s having.

Doreen died in May and Debra has since felt the urge to eat the ashes. In fact, she has had a small spoonful each day which, she says, makes her feel “as close as possible” to her departed mother. Now that she’s about to celebrate the first Christmas without her, the craving has intensified.

“It is the only thing that will get me through my first Christmas without mom,” Debra said.

She further added:

“People might think I’m mad or that it’s not a very respectful thing to do but I just can’t stop myself.

“I see it as a positive thing – allowing her to be close to me and also involving her in the family day.

“I feel like she can live on by being inside of me because if she is part of me she can breathe through my body. My breath is her breath.

“It will be my first Christmas without her and I want her to be involved and this is the only way that feels right to me.”

Doreen Brown died from an airway obstruction after suffering a chest infection.

Back in 1996, Debra also lost a son during Christmas season because he was born prematurely.

With her mother gone now, Debra is feeling extremely sad while waiting for the holidays.

She said:

“My mum and I had a really strong bond and one which could never be broken, even by death.”

“She has been the one who has helped me through all the other ups and downs of my life and then suddenly she just wasn’t there anymore.

“I was distraught.”

Eventually, one of Debra’s sisters delivered her share of ashes to her home.

“At first I kept them in a ­plastic sandwich bag.

“I wanted to be with them all the time so I had them by my bed or with me around the house.

“Then I got a little box for them so I could have them on display but no matter what I did I just couldn’t get that feeling of closeness.”

Debra kept the ashes but refused the idea of scattering it.

“I decided I wanted to do something with her ashes that would make a difference to how we remembered her. I didn’t want to just scatter them because that would feel like throwing her away.”

This was when she felt a strange urge to taste the ashes for the first time.

“I opened the box and licked my fingers and just dipped them into the powder.

“Before I knew what I was doing they were in my mouth and the chalky, salty taste was comforting. I felt confused by what I had done to begin with but the feeling of comfort and closeness it brought was the first bit of solace I’d had since her death.”

“I’d like my mom to be a part of the celebration this year so I will have her with my Christmas dinner,” Debra likewise added. “We will have a place laid for her and a picture of her on the table so she can be with us on the very special day.”

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