There are people who make our lives miserable and toxic. The sad part is, some of these people are family. How do you solve this dilemma? Is it okay to leave a toxic person or relationship, even if the person is a family member?
Of course, a family is important in anyone’s life. The family members are the ones who are supposed to be with you through ups and down, support your life decisions, and know what’s best for you or what will make you happy. However, some people aren’t lucky enough to have this kind of people in their lives.
Here are the reasons why it’s okay to leave a toxic family member or have a little space from them.
Don't let them control you or your life
Let’s face it. We hate family members who control us, our decisions, and our actions. Remember, it’s your life and your life alone. They can be there to guide you or give advice on what actions to take, but they should never ever push you around or tell you what you should do.
Many parents do these to their children. They control them until they’re adults, who should be deciding on their own.
Let your kids be, if they’re grown-ups, especially if they have their own family. Stop meddling with their lives and telling them what to do. They have their own lives now, learn to accept it and show your unending love by supporting them.
No, they’re not always right
Older people, even family members, think they have been through a lot that they know better but this does not always apply. Everyone can make mistakes and age doesn’t guarantee they know everything. Toxic people have the tendency to tell you, “I am right and you’re wrong.”.
In some instances, if we make mistakes or bad decisions, they should be the ones to support us in learning and not doing them again. But toxic family members or people will tell you, “See? I told you so!”. These people will make you feel worse.
You don't need people to pull you down
Toxic people – friends or family members would love to see you suffer. If you’re happy and successful, they appear as if it’s nothing but when you’re down, problematic, and depressed, the more they’ll put you down.
If this is exactly the case, it’s okay to distance yourself from them. In the first place, love does not work this way. If they truly care for you, they’ll be there for you during your down moments and be happy for you on your best times.
If you know it's not your fault, they're not the victims
Toxic people tend to play the victim when everything crashes down. Worse, they love to put the blame on you. If you have this kind of toxic relationship, it’s okay to leave.
Relationships with family or friends should be happy, supportive, and positive. If you think you have toxic relationships, talking to them is one good way to solve the issue. But if everything remains the same and nothing ever changes, it’s okay to step away.
Geologist Gets Revenge On Neighbors Who Blocked Her Car With A Huge Boulder
“[They] forgot I am a geologist.”
What would you do if there was a huge boulder blocking your car preventing you from getting to work? Most of us would probably call on a few friends to move the thing away. However, one geologist took matters into her own hands and got back at the drunk neighbors who tried to get her into trouble in the first place.
Melissa Scruggs is a volcanology Ph. D. candidate who has been dealing with rowdy neighbors in the past year. Although her neighbors were usually considerate, things got out of hand when they had a big party. A huge boulder that had been meant to keep the fence steady was inexplicably moved right in front of Scruggs' car. Unfortunately, this could prevent her from going to work that morning.
This could be the worst thing to wake up to, unless you're a geologist.
Dad Mocks His Son For Joining LEGO Robotics Tournament, Netizens Immediately Take Him Down
“You’ve never seen this many depressed fathers in one place. We’re all thinking, ‘Other kids play football..'”
When a child decides to pursue his or her passion, having their parents behind them can definitely make a big difference. Supportive dads and moms can be a source of motivation and inspiration really motivate as children do their best to achieve their full potential.
That's why it's always saddening when we see scenarios where it's the parents themselves that discourage their children from fulfilling their dreams. Case in point, one father recently earned the ire of numerous netizens on social media after he showed a lack of enthusiasm - even embarrassment - about his son who joined the LEGO robotics tournament.
Family Dines At Restaurant While Maid Just Watched Them Eat Their Meal
“I absolutely HATE people who do this! … I hope y’all get food poisoning.”
Although social media has become a positive driving force for change, it is still true that it sometimes shows disgusting incidents. Recently an image showing a housemaid just watching her employers eat at a restaurant emerged on the internet and it earned ire from netizens.
It is a sad reality that many housemaids and helpers are not treated fairly by their employers. In some cases, they are not paid well and are not even given enough food. What’s sad is that even when they are in public and dining out at a restaurant, there are employers who do not feel ashamed of eating while their maids watch.