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9 Things Parents of Successful Kids Do, According to Science

A handy guide for parents

Much has been written about parenting. Countless parenting styles have been discussed on television and in magazines. They may work for some, and they may not for others. But when it’s science saying what you can do to raise successful kids, the chances of getting positive results is much higher, no doubt.

What can moms and dads do to bring up high achievers? Below, we list a few things that science says have been proven effective.

1. Have dinner as a whole family.

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The Family Dinner Project, a nonprofit organization operating out of Harvard University, says children who eat with their families five days a week show lower levels of substance abuse, obesity, depression, and teen pregnancy. The kids also have higher self-esteem and grade-point averages, plus wider vocabularies.

2. Work outside the home.

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Researchers at Harvard Business School found that when mothers work outside their homes and have a thriving career, their daughters are more likely to be employed themselves, have supervisory roles, and earn more money than their peers whose moms did not have jobs.

3. Let them do chores around the house.

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Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult and the former dean of freshman at Stanford University, mentioned in her 2015 TED Talk a Harvard Grant Study that found that the participants who achieved the greatest professional success were the ones who did chores as a kid.

4. Read to them.

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Researchers at the New York University School of Medicine found that babies whose parents read to them from early infancy develop better literacy, language, and reading skills before they even start elementary school. The study also found that kids who develop a liking for books as kids grow into adults who read for fun.

5. Allow them to fail.

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According to Dr. Stephanie O’Leary, a clinical psychologist specializing in neuropsychology and author of “Parenting in the Real World: The Rules Have Changed,” failure is good for children. Failures teach children to cope and provides them with life experiences that allow them to relate to their peers in a genuine way. Challenges and failures also instill in children the value of hard work and persistence, and help them to develop resilience.

6. Encourage them to travel and explore.

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The Student and Youth Travel Association (SYTA) surveyed 1,432 U.S. teachers who credit international travel with affecting students in positive ways, such as increased tolerance of other cultures and ethnicities, increased independence, self-esteem, and confidence, more intellectual curiosity, and better adaptability and sensitivity.

7. Delay gratification.

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The famous Marshmallow Experiment of 1972 and follow-up studies found that children who were able to resist the temptation to eat the marshmallow in exchange for better rewards grew up to be adults with better social skills, higher test scores, and lower risk of substance abuse. The also had lower chances of being obese, were better equipped to deal with stress, and were more successful.

8. Enforce no-screen time everyday.

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The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says that children below 18 months should have no screen time at all, other than video chatting. Researchers have found that the brains of little kids can be permanently altered when they spend too much time using gadgets like smartphones and tablets. The child’s ability to focus, speak, and socialize can be negatively affected.

9. Stop telling them they can be anything they want to be.

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A survey of 400 teenagers conducted by market research agency C+R Research says that young Americans aren’t interested in doing work that will need to be done in the years to come, like jobs in healthcare and construction trades. They instead dream of being musicians, video game designers, and musicians – even though these jobs only comprise one percent of American occupations. Making children believe that they may choose any career they want can disappoint them in the future if they fail to get the jobs they desire.

What do you think of these tips, moms and dads? Do you agree?

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6 Helpful Tips From a Sex Expert To Make The Experience More Enjoyable

Have a remarkable sexual experience with these tips in mind.

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Humans have been having sex for millions of years. The drive and the desire to do the act is in our nature and that said, it can be considered as a craft that can be improved with practice and research. The act not only affects people physically but also emotionally and psychologically. While the topic is mostly taboo and some people shun the idea of talking about it, sex should not be treated as such.

Some people can say with confidence that their sex lives are awesome, the same thing cannot be said by other people. Even if sex is natural and is meant to be great and fulfilling, there are those who can’t seem to enjoy the experience. The good thing is that there are sex and relationship experts that can help people who are unlucky in the sex department. Here are six tips from an expert at VT that should make your sexual experience enjoyable, meaningful, and satisfying.

#1. “Normal” sex doesn’t exist.

Sex is enjoyed by you and that means, “normal” doesn’t exist. What you enjoy may not be favored by most of your friends and that’s okay because what matters is that you and your partner are happy with the act. While there are videos that tell people that sex should be done this and that way, you can do things differently if that’s what you and your partner are into.

#2. Communication is important

In any relationship, communication is vital. It’s the same for sex. It’s important to let your partner know what you like and dislike and what makes you feel uncomfortable. There are several ways you can let your partner know what works for you. Commonly, some would subtly dictate their partner with a physical guide. Others would prefer having a serious conversation on the matter.

#3. Women should also orgasm.

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It’s common for the man to reach climax when having sex but women can also do the same. Reports have it that women who sleep with men only reach climax 65 percent of the time. On the other hand, women engaging in homosexual sex orgasm 86 percent of the time.

Men, this only means that your woman cannot reach the big O – it’s just that you’re not doing it right and you’re not letting her get to that point. In other words, improve your game.

#4. Pain is unacceptable.

Christian Grey definitely disagrees but generally, sex shouldn’t hurt – except maybe if you like it rough like Mr. Grey. Sex is something that an individual should be satisfied with and it’s something that’s meant to be enjoyable.

Also, one should be in the zone to fully savor the moment. That way, your body should also relax and the experience isn’t unpleasant. However, if you feel pain while doing the deed, you might need to see your doctor.

#5. Distraction is okay.

At some point, you may have felt distracted in the middle of the deed – and that’s totally acceptable. It can be embarrassing to think that you’ve found yourself thinking about other things but that doesn’t mean something’s wrong with your sex life. You just have to practice focusing on the moment, even outside your bedroom. Soon enough, you’ll become more mindful.

#6. Sex doesn’t necessarily mean penetration.

Penetration is not the only way for the act to be called sex, according to VT. There are different ways to get sexual with your partner. If you do the same thing over and over, it can be boring and the experience may not be as enjoyable as it should be. There have been studies showing that couples who have the same sex routine can have lowered sexual drive compared to those who like to spice things up.

With these tips from a sex therapist, you’ll find yourself feeling remarkable with sexual experience like no other. Enjoy the moment!

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Stunning Photographs Reveal Sunken Luxurious Roman City Lost for 1,700 Years

The sunken city of Baiae is like Las Vegas in ancient times.

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The ancient city of Baiae in Rome is being compared to Las Vegas, in which it was a blooming area frequented by the nation’s rich and famous personalities. Baiae was once a popular resort where the elites and emperors expend their wealth and enjoy lavish parties. But 1,700 years ago, this grand city lost its vibrancy after nature took a lash at it and made it disappear beneath the waves.

Fast forward to many thousand years later, the site was rediscovered by an expedition team and it was found that most of the statues and mosaics have been beautifully preserved. Italian photographer Antonio Busiello captured stunning images of the old prosperous city, giving people a glimpse of what the luxurious playground was like in ancient Rome.

The sunken city of Baiae is found in the Gulf of Naples, Italy.

Baiae was once a spot frequented by the rich and famous of Ancient Rome.

Personalities like Julius Caesar, Nero, Pompey the Great, Marius, and Hadrian used to visit the city…

Before volcanic activity caused it to retreat below the waters.

Scientists have discovered that the villas in the area were made from the finest white marble.

Much of Baiae was lost to the waves as volcanic activity resulted in the entire city being submerged underwater into the Gulf of Naples of today. In 2014, the south of Naples experienced heavy flooding that caused landslides, which then exposed portions of the old Baiae.

Continuous landslides in 2014 exposed the hidden sunken city.

Recently, divers were allowed to explore the sunken site to take photos.

A team of divers discovered numerous ruins and Roman monuments.

Busiello said diving here is like "a dive into history."

Busiello, who lives in Naples, managed to photograph Baiae and found that mosaics and statues remain well-preserved across centuries. The 45-year-old said that the city was considered as one of Rome’s most important cities.

“The beautiful mosaics, and the villas and temples that have reemerged or are still underwater show the opulence and wealth of this area.It was considered one of the most important Roman cities for centuries. Pliny the Younger used to live here and from here, across the gulf, he witnessed and described the 79 AD eruption of Mount Vesuvius that destroyed Pompeii and Herculaneum.”

The gorgeous town once had cobbled streets, statues, mosaics, and spas. Julius Caesar and Emperor Nero’s luxurious villas were found here as well. The site was also a place where temples dedicated to Venus, Diana and Mercury were erected.

Baiae was left untouched for centuries and because of that, it has become a sanctuary for sea creatures.

Pisoni and Protiro villas are visible on site.

Intricate mosaic designs and residential rooms can also be seen.

Divers have also found many treasures still intact.

Historians claim that the city is synonymous to wickedness and luxury.

Following the discovery of the drowned city, scientists from Italy’s University of Calabria and Spanish researcher, Mónica Alvarez de Buergo, worked together to analyze one of Baiae villa’s most valuable elements: the white marble. The team took the plunge to determine the type of material used for the construction of the beautiful villas that remain intact today.

The analyses were published in Applied Surface Science journal and it confirmed that the marble came from quarries in Italy, Turkey, and Greece.

Watch the video below to see the team’s exploration of the sunken city of Baiae.

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Busting The Myth About Female Virginity – Can You Tell A Virgin From A Non-Virgin?

Virginity is said to be a state of mind.

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Being a female virgin can be a huge turn-on for some men that they would want their future partners to be someone who hasn’t done the deed yet. For some, ending up with someone who’s still a virgin feels like winning a lottery ticket. But the thing is, no one can really tell if a woman is still a virgin or not just by looking at her.

They say the only way to know if you’re dating a virgin is to see if she bleeds the first time you have sex. That has been the mindset of people for many years but one doctor wants to bust the myth about female virginity.

Bleeding after having sex for the first time doesn’t determine a woman’s virginity.

There is a need to understand about the female hymen to bust the myth.

The hymen is a membrane that covers the vaginal opening.

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Relationship and marriage therapist Dr. Oyebade Obalola Jerry writes in a lengthy Facebook post, hoping to provide some education about female virginity, particularly involving the hymen. According to Dr. Jerry, a good understanding of the hymen should put an end to the myth that virgin girls bleed after their first-time sex.

The state of a woman’s hymen doesn’t say anything about her sexual activity.

The hymen wears away with age.

Activities like biking, exercising and horseback riding can also wear away the hymen.

Some women don’t bleed after doing the deed for the first time but that doesn’t mean she’s instantly no longer a virgin. Not all women have hymen as some are born without it. For those who do, the case can vary. The types of hymen can differ from one woman to another, in which some can have thick hymens while others have thin ones.

In 1998, an informal study published in the British Medical Journal and led by Dr. Sara Patterson-Brown found that 63% of women who had sex for the first time reported the absence of bleeding. As Dr. Jerry continued to explain, women who bleed during sex are those that had rough sex partners.

For instance, if the guy forces the girl to have sex with him and penetrates her when she’s not ready, it would likely cause injury to the girl. Bleeding after sex the first time is most likely the result of an injury and not because of a “broken” hymen.

That said, Dr. Jerry intends to let people know the importance of learming more about the hymen because women are being hurt or criticized for not bleeding after sex the first time. There are cases in which women are being divorced or even physically abused because their spouses think they are a disgrace just because they didn’t have “virgin bleeding.” The most important takeaway is that you can’t be “virgin detectives” since there is no way one can assess if a woman is still a virgin or not.

Take these wise words from Scarleteen:

There is NO physical way to determine if someone is a virgin, because virginity is an idea, not a medical or physical condition.

Do you agree that virginity is just a state of mind? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.

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