Healthy, harmonious relationships aren’t only built on love. Trust is likewise an important ingredient. Because really, how can you stay in love with someone you cannot even trust in the first place, right?
This is why communication plays a crucial role in strengthening a relationship. Couples should be open with each other at all times, especially when it comes to matters that could affect their union.
With that in mind, there are certain things you should always tell your partner – no matter how awkward – if you are aiming to create a deeper, more intimate bond with him or her.
Here are 5 things you should never, ever hide from your lover:
Sure, this isn’t the nicest topic you can talk about during a conversation with your partner but seriously, you should bring it up. Regardless if you are committing emotional or online cheating, you better be honest about it.
Would that end the relationship? Maybe it will or maybe it won’t. But you can bet your significant other would be more devastated if he or she found out about it from others – or caught you in the act. Confessing may help restore trust if you talk it out, apologize sincerely, and change for good.
2. Money matters
It is no secret that financial problems are one of the top reasons that not only cause fights between couples but pushes them to the decision of eventually getting a divorce.
This is why you should always tell your partner if you have money issues. In a SmartParenting article, Emmet Burns, brand marketing director for SunTrust put it this way:
“Money really touches everything. It impacts people’s lives.”
It’s always a good idea to sit down and have a serious conversation about it and together, try to come up with solutions to address the difficulty.
3. Health problems
Your partner has the right to know if you are suffering from any disease or health struggle. Do not try to conceal health-related issues just because you don’t want your lover to worry. Your may think that your intentions are good but in the long run, it’s really a selfish thing to do. Be brave and share your concerns. That way, he or she can provide you with appropriate support and care.
4. Previous relationships
Shouldn’t you hide your past relationships with your partner? Well a Bride article quoted relationship expert and columnist April Masini saying,
“You may think it’s no big deal, but when this ex suddenly shows up, seven years later, your husband will not be happy — and will wonder if you have any other former husbands hiding under rocks.
“Disclose your past marriages and serious relationships so your husband isn’t sabotaged by a surprise ex visit or phone call.”
5. Sexual history
You may think it’s okay to skip this one but Jane Greer, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of ‘What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship’ believes you should be honest about it, too.
“Your sexual history and health not only affects you directly, but it can also impact your partner’s well-being.”
Masini also added:
“Don’t hide pregnancy or abortion. You’re married and whether you planned it or want it or aren’t sure what to do next, it’s wise for you to loop him in early so he can share the responsibility as well as being there for you while you celebrate, ruminate or think about what life will be like next. It’s easy to say it’s your body, it’s your information, but what brings the two of you together is to take his feelings into account as well.”