What does it take to be happy in a relationship? The real answer can differ from one couple to another. Building a strong and positive relationship certainly takes effort and time on both parties and it doesn’t just happen overnight. In order to have a successful relationship that keeps growing stronger each day, you have to put in a lot of effort and work.
Dr. Mark Goulston is a psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling author of numerous best-selling books. He is known to be the author of the famous 10 Habits of Happy Couples – a book that has been read by over half a million people. Regardless of the state of your relationship, Dr. Goulston provides some interesting insight on the 10 habits that will allow you and your loved one to keep the magic going.
#1. Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love or simply rest together? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner has to wake up later to do things while the other sleeps.
#2. Cultivate common interests.
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.
#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.
#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples turn to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.
#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on your perspective. Happy couples choose to accentuate the positive.
#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.
#7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.
Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behavior that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behavior to become a habit. So select one of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit…and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.
If there was one key to happiness in love and life and possibly even success it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, “Just Listen” and be more interested than interesting, more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than adorable.
Source: Mark Goulston
Divorced Man Wrote 20 Epic Marriage Advice He Wished He Could Have Had
He lost the love of his life through divorce, he wished he could have done these things to save his marriage.
Divorce is messy and painful. It takes you on a rollercoaster ride of emotions often filled with resentment and regret from a love that’s been lost, or for a love that wasn’t even there to begin with.
And that is never easy. But when two people who promised to spend a lifetime together separate, they don’t just end their marriage—they end years upon years of friendship, promises, and dreams. They end bitter-sweet memories of what used to be and leave nothing but questions of where, why, and how something that was once so beautiful and true could go terribly wrong.
Neither marriage nor divorce comes with an instruction manual, so when Gerard Rogers lost the love of his life through divorce, he wished he could have done these things to save his marriage:...
10 Marriage Tips From A Woman’s Perspective, A Beautiful Response To Divorced Man’s Advice
Let’s take a look into the vantage point of marriage from a woman’s perspective.
A while back, we shared an interesting article that ultimately went viral, the 20 Epic Marriage Advice from a divorced man. Everyone expressed their different opinions. Most people admire him because it takes guts to stand up and be transparent about your failures. It’s equally as commendable to stand up and say how you’d do things differently. But some people aren’t happy, they think the article is biased and must’ve been written by a disgruntled woman.
Then we received an email from a woman who claimed she has triumphed the murky waters of divorce. She said, the divorced man’s advice are quite nice. But one thing that his post is lacking, however, is the female perspective. And with that, she offered her own version of his wise marriage tips.
#1. Respect your husband.
Like Us On Facebook
Nurse Claims 90,000 People Are Already Infected By Coronavirus In China
Comic Artist, Who Stands 5-Feet, Shares The Advantages of Being Short
Deadly Chinese Wuhan Virus Speculated to Have Come From Bat Soup
Vice Mayor Claims Lava Stops When Its Wet, Police Wants To Throw Him Into Taal Volcano