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The Secret 90/10 Principle

Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. Your day has started terrible.

Sara Martinez





Consider a situation: You’re eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 80 km an hour in a 60 kmph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and paying a $60 traffic fine, you arrived at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.

After arriving at the office 30 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
  1. Did the coffee cause it?
  2. Did your daughter cause it?
  3. Did the traffic policeman cause it?
  4. Did you cause it?

The answer is #4.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,

“It’s OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time”

Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your wife kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having.

Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret:

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel till it fall off? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive.

Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Channel your energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why vent out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to read, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.

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Mom Collects Weekly Manga In Memory of Son Who Passed Away 7 Years Ago

This mother has a unique way of remembering her beloved son.

Mark Andrew



49-year-old Yūko Tanno isn’t actually a manga fan. But if you’ll visit her house, you’ll notice a huge collection of Shōnen Jump, a weekly shōnen manga anthology published by Shueisha. In fact, she has about 350 volumes of it prominently displayed on her wall.

So why exactly is she collecting the magazine? According to the mother, she does it for her son.

Yūko Tanno lost her son Kōta during the Great East Japan Earthquake back in March 2011.

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Toronto Cop Buys Items Shoplifter Tried To Steal, Helps Him Land A Job Instead

Sometimes, people need a helping hand instead of a punishment to help turn their life around… and often it’s more enough.




People who do unlawful deeds are sometimes forced into doing so due to difficult circumstances. Often, these people need a helping hand instead of a stern punishment to help turn their life around.

This is the very same principle that Constable Niran Jeyanesan followed when he was faced with the ordeal of apprehending an 18-year-old shoplifter at Walmart along Wilson Avenue and Jane Street in Toronto.

In August 2017, Const. Jeyanesan and one other Toronto law enforcer were called to the retail outlet for a shoplifting incident. Apparently, a teenager was caught by the store’s loss prevention officer for taking a tie, a dress shirt, and a pair of socks.

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This City in California Has Found Out The Secret To Ending Homelessness

Homelessness is a problem everywhere but its down to “functional zero” in this city.

Mark Andrew



According to statistics, there are about 600,000 people in the United States who are out in the streets homeless every night. Furthermore, we are told that over 40,000 of those are veterans.

It’s a sad reality that we all have to face but its also good to know there are steps being taken to solve the problem. In the city of Riverside in California, for example, reports tell us that the number is already down to what is considered a “functional zero.”

Since 2016, Riverside has maintained “functional zero” which means the number of homeless people is “less than the monthly housing placement rate”.

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