It takes a super woman to be a good wife. Yes, being a wife is not easy. It means she needs to be a nanny to take care of the kids every hour, be a chef to cook for the kids and husband every day, be a housekeeper to clean the house the whole day, and be a nymph for her husband every night. Being a good wife could also mean there will never be enough time for herself to unwind, travel, have her moment of solitary, or even do simple things like running to the bathroom to pee.
All wives are not perfect. They can also feel weary, exhausted, emotionally and physically drained, and cranky. And taking care of another person’s mess sometimes brings out the worst in typical good wives, to the point that their relationship with their husbands may suffer.
This is not the case with Savvanah Whitman, not her real name, whose husband, Austin, is quite supportive. Austin even allowed her to have a lover to recharge in case she starts feeling insane from her life as a mother, wife, and a PhD student.
And instead of drawing herself away from her husband for having a lover, Jay, Savvanah surprisingly became closer to Austin and turned out to be a good wife to him.
“I’ve been with my husband Austin for almost four years. For two of those years I’ve also had an ongoing occasional relationship with my lover Jay, with my husband’s full knowledge and consent,” Savvanah shared.
“There’s no sneaking, no cheating, and no funny business here. Just good old-fashioned dates, conversations, and sheet-tangling sex. I see my lover as often as a few times a month or as rarely as every six months, depending on our schedules and desires. I do my best to balance my marriage to Austin, my relationship with Jay, a job, and parenting three teenagers, so sometimes I don’t get to spend as much time with Jay as I’d like.”
“So why do I gleefully indulge in these occasional overnight romps with Jay instead of sticking to the model of monogamy most of my 40-something friends desperately embrace while quietly withering inside?”
“Well, that last sentence should be something of a clue. Having a lover makes me a better wife because it makes me feel good and that’s good for my marriage. I break the benefits down into three separate but related categories, each of which positively contributes to my life as a wife, parent, student, and employee: communication, passion, and rejuvenation.”
“A serious relationship takes a lot of work, as anyone who has ever been in one knows. A great deal of that work is simply communicating in ways that make sure both parties get heard, acknowledged, and respected. When Austin and I first started exploring the idea of opening up our relationship to include additional lovers, we had to do an extraordinary amount of additional communicating. We had to try extra hard to make sure we were actively listening, holding each other in compassion, and seeking what was best for our relationship.”
“Don’t get me wrong, there were plenty of arguments, hurt feelings, and serious missteps along the way. We had to fight our way through a lot of crappy conversations to get to the point where now we feel at least slightly more confident in our ability to share our wants, needs, and desires without fear of getting automatically shut down based on jealousy or insecurity.
Like so many things, it was worth the effort and has taught us that there isn’t much we can’t work through. I feel more confident in my ability to communicate with Austin as well as everyone else in my life, something that only serves to enhance my skills as a parent and contributes positively to my career.”
“At this point you may be asking yourself, ‘But doesn’t the extra work of communicating just add more stress to your life and marriage? Wouldn’t it be easier to keep things simple and avoid the risk of jealousy/anger/drama?'”
“Of course it would be. But it would also mean that I wouldn’t get to spend quality time with a dear friend who partakes in deliciously fun sexual escapades with me and reminds me that I am an innately sexual being. Jay and I haven’t yet fallen into a sexual rut and hopefully we never will. We haven’t become annoyed with each other’s bad habits. We don’t have to deal with each other’s dirty laundry or decide who is going to stop on the way home to pick up the tomatoes for tonight’s salad.
We get to focus on making each other feel good in as many ways as possible, something that is made infinitely easier precisely because that is all we have to do. Jay is a passionate and skilled lover who enjoys the sexual opportunities I offer without expecting any kind of serious commitment. He brings toe-curling excitement to my life and I get to turn around and bring that high-octane sexual energy back home to Austin. Everyone wins.”
“And by everyone, I mean everyone. For years, my therapist has urged me to take mini-vacations to get away from the stress of trying to keep up with managing a household, getting a PhD, and working. Unfortunately, I always felt obligated to take care of my husband, our kids, our dogs, our house, my classes, and projects…the list could go on and on. It was impossible for me to let go, almost entirely because I felt like I didn’t have a real reason to get away. I had everything keeping me at home and nothing pulling me away. So even though I knew a break every now and then would help me recharge my batteries, it almost never happened.”
“But now, when I feel like the stress is becoming unbearable and my nerves are close to being shot, I plan a night or two with Jay to counterbalance everything else going on in my life. Just getting away from the usual routine helps me regain my equilibrium and return to my place as a productive and pleasant member of my family and society.
Jay and I are old friends and the comfort that comes from being at his house with no responsibilities and a glass of wine does something miraculous to my anxiety level. I remember how to breathe, how to laugh, and how to see the sparkle in someone’s eye. Jay reminds me, through our conversations and caresses, to be gentle, compassionate, and vulnerable. He helps restore my sense of calm and sends me back to Austin with a soft heart that is better able to deal with the stress of real life. I’m thoroughly convinced that having a lover makes me a better wife,” she concluded.
The Secret Meaning of Anklets And Why Some Wives Wear Them
While many women consider the wearing of anklets just another fashion statement, there are less-than-ideal symbolic associations to the accessory.
Anklets — which are also called ankle chains, ankle bracelets, or ankle strings — have been worn by women throughout history. Aside from functioning as foot adornments, they also signify social status.
For most women, anklets are just plain accessories.
In ancient Egypt, women of all social classes wore them as ornaments. They were made of various metals. Naturally, the rich women had gold while those who weren’t so wealthy wore silver or iron ones. Some accounts also claim that worshipers of a deity called Baal prescribed the use of anklets for prostitutes. This was so these unfortunate women were easily recognized....
Woman Given Permission To Cheat By Boyfriend Claims Affairs Made Her Relationship Better
She only sleeps with married men as they don’t expect commitment.
A 29-year-old woman named “Jade,” who’s been with her 50-year-old partner for eight years has opened up about how cheating has improved her relationship. Four years ago, Jade (real name withheld) received permission from her man to date other guys after having their sex life affected by his medical issues.
In an exclusive interview with FEMAIL, the London-based assistant manager explained that she only sees the positive sides to an affair. Despite acknowledging that there are people who will never agree with her stance, she insists that there’s nothing wrong with it. Some people even agree that it’s not cheating if your significant other knows and approves.
“Jade” reveals that she has affairs with married men only.
Woman Realizes the Kind of Marriage She Has After Men Hit On Her at a Bar
Are you married to your best friend?
It’s difficult to juggle marriage and parenting at the same time, but it’s a woman’s job to be a wife to her husband and be a mother to her kids. After all the sacrifices our mothers do for us, I do agree that every once in a while, they too, deserve a break.
The woman in this story is married, but her husband lets her have a night on her own. Like most attractive women, men usually hit on her despite seeing the ring on her finger. Incidents like these can be flattering for a married woman, but it could also be a dangerous game to play. For this woman, however, being hit on a bar made her realize something vital about her marriage.
Most men would probably go berserk if they knew this happens to their wives. If you were this woman’s husband, how would you respond to such a scenario? Before you react, though, read this first because, it might be something that you and your wife need right now....
Woman Divorces Paralyzed Husband And Marries His Friend So They Can Take Care Of Him
This modern family has a heartwarming story.
This may be one of the weirdest yet most interesting and maybe heartwarming love stories you’ll ever read. It’s not your typical love triangle story. A woman in China divorced her paralyzed ex-husband only to marry his best friend after. But the juicy part is that all three of them are living together.
Xie Xiping from Angkang China has been looking after her husband (now ex) Xu Xihan since he became paralyzed as a result of a mining accident in 2002. Later on, she married Xu’s best friend Liu Zongkui. Together, Xie and Liu are taking care of Xu and they all live in one house with all their kids.